Many people find their worth in the relationship they have spent years investing in. Finding yourself can be a challenge especially after a divorce.
It may be hard to believe at this moment, but this can be one of the best times in your life. Now is the time for you to rediscover old passions, pursue a career you have always thought was interesting, or create the happiness you may have been missing.
These are 7 steps to help you jump start your way back into the real you!
1) BE AWARE OF YOUR FEELINGS
Do you feel sad, angry, or depressed? One of the best things to do is to become aware of your feelings. When you feel a strong emotion, step back and explore what it is that is bringing you to that place. If you can dissect how you feel, it can help you figure out a way to either avoid the negative situation or create more positive areas in your life. Having more self awareness will help you start a more energized and exciting path in your future.
2) FINDING YOUR SELF WORTH
Starting your journey to the most powerful YOU starts from within. Take some time to determine what your deepest passions are. This will mean something different for everyone, whether it is being the best parent for your children, impacting the lives of others, or starting a business you love. Make this a fun process and really dig deep to see how you can truly conquer anything you put you mind to.
3) BRING BACK THE FUN
Have you ever heard the saying it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile? Make it your mission to smile as much as humanly possible. There is nothing like getting together with friends and family to do something fun. This can be something as simple as a board game or as big as taking a life changing trip to a new place. The important thing here is to put yourself in as many fun environments as possible because it will create new happy memories that you will keep with you forever.
4) CREATE AN APPEARANCE TO BE PROUD OF
As the years go by it becomes harder and harder to take care of your appearance. Now is the time to start fresh and make yourself a priority. Maybe you will join that workout class at the gym that looks really fun or change your diet to create a healthier you. When you focus on your health as a priority, you will feel more confident in all areas of your life.
Even something as simple as getting a haircut can give you new strength after your divorce. Step back and focus on you!
5) INVITE CHANGE
Now that you have seen that attractive and confident person come back to the surface, it’s time to invite change into your life. You never know when the next great opportunity will come along. If you become open to this idea, there can be some exciting things coming your way. Change can present the perfect time to pivot and head a different direction in your career or even take up a new hobby. Embrace change, don’t let it scare you!
6) PICK UP HOBBIES
Remember when you were a kid and loved to ride your bike after school? Maybe for you it was baking cupcakes for your family and friends? Well for most people it’s easy to lose touch with their hobbies they loved, or they find it difficult to create new ones with the busy lives they have. Your fresh start is the perfect milestone to discover new passions. It’s a great time to find a hobby that helps push you into a stronger individual. Another cool thing about new hobbies is that it may put you in a new environment. Being in a new place can give you the chance to meet new people and make new friends.
7) BECOME THE BOSS OF YOUR LIFE
For many years you may have had to make decisions based on everyone else’s situation or feelings. Now it is time for you to take control of your future. Becoming the boss of your path can be hard for some people, but when you do it will be the best time of your life. You will be able to determine what’s next and make decisions based on what you really want. I mean think about it… who doesn’t want to be the boss of their future? Show yourself how confident you really are and that you will take charge!
Restoring yourself after a divorce can be an amazing experience. At times it may not be easy, but you have the strength to take these steps and rebuild your future. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family to help you take this journey and get back to the wonderful YOU!