When you are going through a divorce, there are three primary areas that you should receive divorce support from. Theses areas are financially, legally, and emotionally.
When putting together a ‘divorce support team,’ you will want to make sure that you have team members for each of these areas. And having a ‘divorce support team,’ does not mean an official team of people with designated roles. It simply means purposefully surrounding yourself with people in your life to help you out in these three areas.
Let’s discuss each area in greater detail and the people you need in each one:
Divorce Support – Legally
The primary support person when it comes to the legal aspects of divorce will be your attorney and your attorney’s staff. Your attorney is there to ensure that all of the proper paperwork is filed and that you understand each step you need to go through. If you have any legal questions about your divorce, ask your attorney. That is what they are there for.
In other words, your divorce attorney is there to ensure that your best interests are met from the legal aspect of your divorce.
Divorce Support – Financial
Your divorce attorney can also be there for your financial support as well. As was mentioned above, it is your attorney’s job to ensure that you get your fair share out of the divorce.
But at the same time, part of the costs of undergoing a divorce will be to pay your attorney as well. As far as other divorce financial support is concerned, you can find support from a CFA or a CPA that specializes in divorce. Either of these can help you figure out what your financial scenario looks like, what steps you will need to take, and what financial plan you would be apt to follow once the divorce is complete and you’re on your own again.
It also helps to find a friend or family member that will help you stay financially accountable. Make sure that this person is someone that will help you stick to your budget. You don’t want to get advice from that friend or family member that blows their money and encourages you to do the same.
Divorce Support – Emotional
The emotional aspect of the divorce is without question going to be the hardest. There are many people who can help you out in this area as well.
The most obvious should be your friends and relatives. These are the people that know you the most and have seen you grow. But, you must also be cautious about choosing which people to share your emotions with because some people may be more damaging than helpful.
You can also turn to people you know who have undergone a divorce. These people will have good advice because they have been in your same situation. They will have good tips to help with managing your stress levels and looking towards the future with a positive outlook.
Another option that can be very helpful is talking with therapists and divorce coaches. Divorce therapy can be a very positive thing for you because it can help you work out any emotional baggage you have. These therapists can assist you in healing the pain and providing you with someone to talk to. They will give you ways to work through your emotions in a positive way.
There are also divorce support groups that you can turn to for assistance as well. Divorce support groups are safe areas where you can engage with people who are going through the exact same scenario that you are. At the very least, it will help you realize that you are not alone.
No mater what, make sure that you have a team that you can turn to for any of these needs. This will make the divorce process somewhat smoother in all aspects.