Many people wonder… how are you able to find and keep your happiness throughout your divorce? Even if you have been having severe conflicts with your spouse for years and are glad to finally be free, the actual divorce proceedings are still going to be very stressful and hectic.
You will need to deal with several issues that can cause stress throughout your divorce. Some of these issues are things such as debt division, splitting financial accounts and assets, child custody, and visitation rights.
Fortunately, there are a few tactics you can use to try to keep your happiness levels up.
1) Express Gratitude
First and foremost, there is always an infinite number of things to be grateful for in life. No matter how bad things may be going at the moment, remember the things that you are thankful for. You can be thankful for your health, the house in which you live, the car you drive, the food you eat, the paved roads you have to drive on, your family, your friends, and even the air you breathe every day. It is a good habit to practice expressing your gratitude every day. You can write it down in a journal or even just take some time to yourself to think about these things. Just spending a few minutes on this every day will result in your happiness levels will go up.
2) Don’t Express Blame
It’s incredibly easy to express blame during a divorce. But it’s very important that you do not, not only for your own benefit but for the benefit of the people around you too. It’s easy to blame your spouse during a divorce, but doing so will only make you feel angrier and create more unnecessary conflict. Your friends and family may not even want to be around you if you are constantly angry and blaming others.
3) What Was Good About Your Marriage?
Yes, your marriage has ended in a divorce. But guess what? There were still good things that happened during this marriage, right? You may have made memorable experiences, gained new friendships, or did new things. You may have even learned valuable lessons that you can apply towards future relationships. Reflect on those things and try to remember what this relationship has given or taught you instead of dwelling on the negative.
4) What’s Ahead?
What’s going to happen now that the divorce is happening? Well, your life will definitely be different than it was before, but different is not a bad thing! There will still be things that you can look forward to and new opportunities that will arise. What vacations will you embark on? What new career will you take? Where will you move to? Think about the positive things that could lie ahead. You can view your divorce as a new beginning and a way to create a new you. Have fun and enjoy your life through the good and bad times.
5) Choose To Be Happy
This may seem like a cop out answer, but honestly, happiness is a choice. It is your own decision to choose to feel good or bad. And yes, you can choose happiness during your divorce. If you are reading this, try smiling right now (yes, do it). Just the simple act of smiling will bring some happiness into any situation. Science has proven that just this simple act of smiling can boost your mood and reduce stress. It produces a chemical reaction in the brain that can actually make you feel happier. So, regardless of the things that you are currently going through, smile and choose happiness.