Divorce is unfortunately becoming more common these days, with around half of all marriages not making it.
Even more unfortunate is how the biggest reasons for why people get divorced are not always so clearcut. There are can be multiple different factors at play.
With that said, here are some of the top reasons why people get divorced.
A poor communication between the spouses is often one of the root causes behind a divorce. Poor communication basically means that one or both spouses have simply quit investing themselves into the marriage. This makes the relationship difficult and frustrating for both partners.
In fact, strong communication is undoubtedly the biggest foundation behind a strong marriage. Simply asking each other how their day went after coming home from work is an example of how a couple can communicate and engage with one another on a daily basis. Talking with one another goes a long way to ensure that the marriage stays strong.
Having Unrealistic Expectations
Many people enter a marriage with massive expectations. These expectations often arise from having a perfect image of how the marriage should be. This can cause stress on how you view your spouse. Social media plays a big factor in this because people usually only share the most perfect moments. This can create an image that can cause jealously and high expectations for every relationship to be prefect all the time.
If anything doesn’t live up to one’s expectations, it can cause a lot of strain on the relationship. Because of this strain, communication and intimacy issues may arise.
Lack of Intimacy
A lack of intimacy often stems from a lack of communication. In turn, this can result in both spouses not feeling as connected to one another like they used to.
It isn’t always just about physical intimacy, because there can be a lack of emotional intimacy as well. Constantly giving your spouse a cold shoulder when they want to talk with you is naturally going to result in problems.
Infidelity in a marriage can often be the result of a lack of intimacy. It can also often be the final crucifix that leads to one or both spouses in the marriage announcing their intention to want a divorce.
There are many different reasons why a spouse may commit infidelity as well. They may feel angry or resentful at their spouse, they may feel a lack of physical or emotional intimacy with them, or they may forge a strong connection with another person through friendship and then that connection will develop into a sexual relationship.
Whatever the case, there’s no question that infidelity is one of the biggest causes of divorce today.
Money and Financial Problems
Another big cause of divorce has nothing to do with a lack of intimacy or infidelity but rather with money and financial problems.
Some spouses may still treat the money they make as their own money and feel angry when the other spouse spends it. They may have alternate views on money and how it should be spent, which leads to a power struggle.
Many times, couples will try to “keep up with the Joneses”. This will often stretch their finances so thin that they remain in constant stress of wondering how the bills will be paid.
In turn, this can lead to other problems such as communication issues.